When you’re brand new to the sugar bowl, it’s definitely normal to have some mixed feelings. It goes without saying that you’re excited about finally getting your own chance to live the sweet life. However, as is the case with any unknown in life, it’s common for brand new sugar babies to be a little nervous as well. Although every sugar baby’s experience is going to be a little different, the following are just a few common challenges to be prepared for.
- You really need to know yourself.
Most people tend to think they know themselves pretty well, but if you’re going to be a sugar baby, you have to be almost hyper-aware of your likes and dislikes, your wants and your needs. Sugar dating is a lot more honest and up-front than other forms of dating, but some principles still apply. For instance, the sugar factor isn’t going to magically make things work with someone who’s not a fit for you personality-wise. You really need to know what (and who) just isn’t going to cut it and stick to your guns.
- The money factor takes some getting used to.
Most people think going from rags to riches pretty much overnight will be effortless, but the truth is it will take some getting used to. If you’re not used to money, you can definitely feel like a fish out of water at first. It’s not just about learning how to take the trappings of the sweet life in stride either. Sugar babies have to be very comfortable discussing money and finances, especially when it comes to asking for what they need. That means unlearning what society teaches people about such things – that money isn’t something you ever talk about or ask about.
- Boundaries are super important.
Many sugar babies get into sugar dating because they’re ready to break the rules and go against the grain as far as how society tells people they should behave in a relationship. However, it’s important to understand that successful sugar relationships don’t work because they break the rules. They work because the two people involved are good at making their own rules, setting their own boundaries, and sticking to both. That said, you’ll need to be comfortable bluntly discussing your boundaries and expectations in no uncertain terms, as well as defending them if someone ever tries to cross the line.
- Everyone deals with a faux sugar daddy sooner or later.
Traditional daters aren’t the only ones who occasionally have to deal with bona fide jerks and fakes every so often. Sooner or later, every sugar baby finds herself talking to a potential sugar daddy who’s not so sweet. Maybe he talks to you like you’re dirt or goes back on his word. Perhaps he just makes a lot of gross assumptions about you that you just plain don’t appreciate or won’t stop blowing up your Secret Benefits inbox after you’ve told him explicitly that you’re not interested. New sugar babies are especially likely to attract fake sugar daddies that are looking to take advantage, but this behavior isn’t normal or acceptable, so don’t put up with it. Shut it down immediately, report him if he’s breaking site rules, and don’t let him sour you on the sugar dating experience.
- Your social circle may not understand, but that’s OK.
Once you find yourself in an arrangement that’s truly everything you’ve ever wanted, you’ll face a new challenge – other people’s opinions about your sugar lifestyle. Many sugar babies, especially those who are new to the sugar bowl, find themselves dealing with concerned friends and family who don’t really get what sugar dating is all about. Do what you can to correct their misconceptions. Assure them you’re doing this because you want to and because it’s a better fit for you. Then carry on. Ultimately it’s up to you how much you tell your family about your lifestyle, but many sugar babies wisely adopt a “don’t ask, don’t tell” approach and that’s perfectly alright.
At the end of the day, there’s a lot to love about life in the sugar bowl, but there are challenges to get used to as well. Just go into the experience prepared and with an open mind. It won’t be long before you’re sugaring like a champ.